I wish I could say that I was going to be really, really brave and reveal my name and other personal details to you on this site. However, I don’t think I am ready for that (and to be honest, I don’t think the rest of the world is either!). Talking about sex and vaginas and problems with sex and vaginas is not really common dinner table talk, and I’d prefer to leave my identity as anonymous, for the time being.
For that same reason, I will also be maintaining the privacy of all other persons and organizations mentioned on this blog. If something really piques your interest, you are welcome to email me and I may be able to send you information directly, if requested.
That being said, here’s a bit of background information on me. I am 32 years old and have been married for 5 years. I have never had sexual intercourse (yes – my husband is totally amazing). I have been living with vaginismus and vulvar vestibulitis (often more generally known as vulvodynia) for all of my sexual life (since my mid-teens). For most of my life, I ignored these problems for a variety of reasons: I wanted to pretend they didn’t exist; I didn’t want to feel “abnormal”; I couldn’t find many resources out there to help me; they weren’t affecting my day-to-day life etc. It’s only been within the last year when I finally was able to surround myself with a kick-ass team of vagina helpers that I have finally started to really tackle these conditions.
I started this blog after watching a show on TLC called “Strange Sex.” The episode I saw was called “Secret Pain” (watch it online here) and it was about a couple that was dealing with vaginismus in their marriage. My husband and I both ended up watching it and were mesmerized that someone was finally talking about something that we have struggled with for so long. My husband said, “if only we had seen this show 5 years ago.”
And it got me thinking. Vaginismus and other vagina-related issues are very isolating. It’s not mainstream enough to talk about with even your close friends, and most often, people are stunned, shocked, baffled, confused or dismissive when they hear about what I’m dealing with. It’s lonely and it’s scary and I would have loved to have someone to talk to who really understood what I was going through. So, I started this blog because I wanted to tell my story, in hopes that other women (and men!) out there would find it helpful and be able to relate and know that they are not alone.
Thanks for stopping by my little anonymous corner for the web. If you can relate to anything on this blog, I encourage you to comment (you can be anonymous too!). If you want to connect personally, I definitely welcome you to contact me directly.